On some level, I suppose I've always been aware of this, but occasionally it's driven home to me in a big way. That is, stuff that really, really seems to bug most people---and especially, bug most women about men---really doesn't bother me. While stuff that most people don't care about---again, especially most women about men---really, really gets to me.

Take cockiness, for instance. I like some cockiness in a person. As a woman, I like it especially in a man. And as long as that man listens to me, I don't feel in the least inclined to "teach him a lesson" by stifling that attribute. But if a person---or again, a man---is careless or blind or stupid, I want nothing much to do with him. I'll simply find someone else to spend my time with.

Is it the lesson-teaching thing that gets me? Am I the only one who thinks that's an utter waste of time? A person---male or female---will be who they are, regardless of how you try to change them to match your ideals. If you can't like something about a person, I'm of the opinion that you simply call them on it. And if they won't listen---it's all right if they don't agree---I don't get close to them, *can't* get close to them. Is that simplistic? Immature? Because, I gotta say, romance novels notwithstanding, "teaching a lesson" seems the true immaturity.

On the other hand...maybe this is why I don't date? Oy. Head. Hurts.

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